Following Jesus: How Do We Walk With Him?
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You cannot follow Jesus alone. The early church was not a support group for individual believers. It was a formation community in which people were shaped by shared life.
"And they devoted themselves to the apostles' teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers." — Acts 2:42
1. Jesus formed his disciples in community.
Jesus could have taught privately. He chose to form twelve people in community — sharing meals, travel, conflict, and rest. The disciples' formation happened not only through Jesus' teaching but through their life together. Their arguments about who would be greatest Mark 9:33-37Mark 10:35-45 were occasions for teaching. Peter's denial and restoration John 18:15-27John 21:15-19 was formation. Even their failures were pedagogical — because formation happens in relationship, not in isolation.
2. Acts 2 describes formation, not just gathering.
Acts 2:42-47 lists what the early church devoted itself to: apostles' teaching, fellowship (koinonia), breaking of bread, and prayers. The Greek word koinonia is often translated "fellowship" in ways that suggest social pleasantness. It actually means "participation" or "sharing in common" — the active, mutual involvement in each other's lives. They sold possessions and shared with anyone who had need (v. 45). This is not a small group that meets for coffee. It is a community that has reorganized its economic life around one another.
3. The "one another" commands require community to fulfill.
The New Testament contains more than fifty "one another" commands: love one another John 13:34, bear one another's burdens Galatians 6:2, confess your sins to one another James 5:16, encourage one another 1 Thessalonians 5:11, forgive one another Ephesians 4:32, submit to one another Ephesians 5:21. None of these are possible in isolation. They require the friction and grace of actual shared life with actual people. The "one another" commands are only possible in genuine community.
4. Conflict in community is not a sign that community has failed.
Paul's letters are written to communities in conflict: Corinthians quarreling over spiritual gifts and class divisions, Galatians falling into legalism, Philippians quarreling Philippians 4:2-3. Jesus anticipated conflict Matthew 18:15-20 and gave a process for navigating it. The presence of conflict in a community is not evidence that the community is broken. It is evidence that real people with real differences are actually sharing real life — and that is exactly the condition in which formation happens.
5. Accountability is a gift, not a threat.
Hebrews 10:24-25 — "Let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near." The word "stir up" (paroxysmós) means to provoke or stimulate — the same root as "paroxysm." Genuine Christian community provokes growth. It is not merely a comfortable gathering of like-minded people. It is a community where people are actually changed by one another.
Write a paragraph: what would your community need to look like to actually form you — to change you in ways you cannot change yourself? Compare it to your current reality.
Submit your paragraph and your journal answer about the person you hide from.
A: Active participation in shared life — mutual involvement in one another's lives, including economic sharing — not merely pleasant social gathering.
A: Because they can only be fulfilled in genuine relationship with actual people.
A: No. It is the condition in which genuine formation happens — the friction of real people sharing real life.
Lord, form me through community — the people who challenge me, the relationships I cannot escape, the friction that reveals what is still unformed in me. Use them. Amen.